Thank you

Thursday was a beautiful day.  The funeral was a joyful celebration of Cookie’s life and death.  The meal was a wonderful time of fellowship and story-telling.  The weather was perfect during the 3 hour drive to Beatrice.  We saw deer, a coyote, turkey, and many many hawks; Cookie would especially have appreciated the fall colors in the grasses and shrubs.  Our arrival at the cemetery confirmed Cookie and my choice of burial location.  It is a beautiful setting with the church and cemetery on a hill overlooking the Blue River valley.

I want to thank everyone:  Anita and Joan for leading worship;  Kay, Donna, Dwight, Ben and Daryl for worshipful music; those who provided the meal; those who shared a story or memory; those who drove to Beatrice for the committal service and burial; the hospitality committee of the Beatrice church for a delicious supper and time of continued fellowship. Also I would never have managed without the direct support of Birdie, Leroy and the Life-Sharing class.  You all were great.

I particularly treasure all the words of sympathy I have received in person or through this blog, email, facebook and twitter.  Cookie touched many lives around the world and they have reached back to her in this time of sickness and death. Thank you!

 

 

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Life Sketch

A LIFE WELL LIVED –   MARY RUTH (COOKIE) WIEBE   (1954 – 2011)

Cookie Wiebe, 57, life partner of husband, David Wiebe, died Monday morning, October 31, 2011.  She was born in Newton on February 1, 1954 the youngest child of Alfred G. and Clara Voth.  She graduated from Newton High School in 1972 and Bethel College in 1976.  After marrying David in 1978 and starting a family, Cookie chose to be a stay-at-home mom rather than starting on a career path.  During this time Cookie did some part-time and lots of volunteer work.  From 1989 – 1992, Cookie and her family served with Mennonite Central Committee (MCC) doing community development in Chad, Africa.  Returning to Newton, Cookie continued to work with MCC as workroom supervisor which inspired her later interest in human resource development (HRD).  From 1995-1999, Cookie and David, worked at Woodstock School in India.  One of Cookie’s roles was new staff coordinator which furthered her interest in HRD.  Upon returning from India, Cookie attended Friends University earning a Masters Degree in HRD.  Cookie used her skills and knowledge in several jobs including another MCC term in N. Newton as HR director, wellness coordinator for Harvey county, and most recently interim HR manager at Woodstock School. It was there a bit more than one year ago, that Cookie was diagnosed with ovarian cancer which would ultimately be terminal.

Married 33 1/3 years, Cookie and Dave demonstrated their strong faith and firm commitment to whole life stewardship.  For their 25th anniversary, Cookie and Dave purchased a tandem bike. They participated in several BAK rides and two longer fund-raising trips to Mennonite Conventions in N. Carolina and California.  Given Cookie’s propensity to document everything, either photographically or journalistically, this past year she has inspired many with her blogs (www.charitableliving.net) about her disease and life convictions and by sharing her fabulous photos taken on daily walks along Sand Creek bike path.  In her bucket list of things to do before she died, Cookie included two things, an art gallery photography showing of her portraits taken of regular people in India with whom she and Dave came into contact and to see the birth of their first  grandson.   Both of these wishes were graciously granted.  In life, Cookie was an excellent teacher and public speaker, passionate about many things such as helping people overcome poverty and injustice, and interested in great ideas and meaningful discussions. She loved movies especially foreign films with subtitles.  She sought to live life intentionally, with no regrets.

She will be especially missed in this life by husband, David of Newton, daughter Abra (husband Phil Staffin) and new grandson Cassius Staffin-Wiebe of Minnesota, brother John (wife Colleen) of Derby, sister Birdie (husband Tim Vander Molen) of Illinois, nieces Amy Voth, Jane Vander Molen and nephews David Voth and Tim Vander Molen Jr.   Cookie was preceded in death by daughter, Bethany Ann Wiebe, and her parents. Cookie and Dave also belonged to an extraordinary Sunday School Class at First Mennonite in Newton, where they journeyed together with others in their faith.   Cookie will be sorely missed by this group of wonderful friends and sojourners in life.

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Plans

Public viewing: 
Petersen Funeral Home,  Wednesday, November 2 from 1:00 – 9:00 pm.
(Family will be present 6:30 – 9:00.)

Funeral service:
First Mennonite Church, Newton, Thursday, November 3 at 10:00 am.

Committal Service and Burial:
First Mennonite Church Cemetery, Beatrice, NE, Thursday, November 3 at 5:00 pm.

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Final Good-bye

Cookie finished the race this morning.

Cookie has been ready for some time. Yesterday evening sister-in-law Colleen, a nurse, told me that she thought Cookie might go during the night.  I asked her if she had told Cookie.  She hadn’t, so I decided to go ahead and tell her and got a big grin and a thumbs up signal from Cookie.  Most of the night she had difficulty breathing; only occasionally was she able to breath smoothly.  Then around 7:40 this morning her breathing slowed for a few minutes then stopped, and Cookie got a big smile on her face.  She took a couple of more shallow breaths and coughed a bit then she was finished.  Earlier in the night I had told her I loved her and she responded, “I know, (smile), I love you too.”

Thank you for all your prayers during Cookie’s illness.  She ran the good race and has earned the prize.

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Going soon?

Cookie started out the day as usual: bright-eyed, alert and cheerful.  I treasure the smile of recognition she gives me every morning when I first walk into her room.  But this morning was different; she wanted to talk.  She said that she thought she would being “going soon.”  I asked if she meant today and she said yes.

I’m not sure what to make of it.  It is 11:00 p.m. as I write this and today has been similar to other days this week.  Her O2 levels are down a bit from what they had been for several days, but not significantly.  She has been comfortable.  For the first time in awhile she stated directly that she was hungry.  She managed to drink water out of a small tumbler by herself without spilling much.   But still she feels that she is very close to the end.

I managed to create a bit of drama this evening.  When the humidifier on the oxygen concentrator was low on water I switched her to an oxygen tank so that I could refill the bottle.  I then noticed that the regulator on the bottle went to 15 liters/minute so I gave her that for a few minutes while I took care of the concentrator.  Afterwards when she was back on the concentrator, I checked her blood O2 level.  It had jumped up to 86-87 from the 78-79.  But the concentrator only goes to 10 liters/minute, so I decided to call hospice to see if there was anyway to provide more oxygen, realizing any relief it provided would be temporary.  After calling Dr. Wiens, a hospice nurse arrived with the options of a mask or an oxymizer, a sort of surge chamber for the cannula.  Cookie nixed the mask immediately and the oxymizer didn’t seem to have any effect due to Cookie’s mouth breathing.  Meanwhile Cookie’s O2 levels fell into the lower 70s.  In the end we have switched to using the original cannula in the mouth and her O2 levels are back up to 80.

Pray that we can remain calm when things seem to be going downhill.  That Cookie would continue to be comfortable and pain-free.

 

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The New Normal

Cookie continues to be weak but, all things considered, is doing well.  All systems are functional, her blood O2 levels are staying stable in the mid-80s on 10 liters of Oxygen.  When she is fully awake she is bright eyed and smiling, but she has been sleeping a lot and is often a bit groggy even when awake.

Abra and Phil left for home (Minneapolis) Wednesday afternoon and arrived safely yesterday.  So now it’s back to Birdie and me providing the 24 hour care.   Generally I stay up late anyway so Birdie goes to bed early while I stay up with Cookie.  We may watch a Doctor Who episode on netflix and I give her her bedtime medications and make sure she is comfortable, keep her mouth and lips moistened, etc.  Then in the middle of the night 2:00-3:00, Birdie relieves me and I go up to bed.

Last night, the world series game put a kink in our routine.  We aren’t set up so that I can watch the game in Cookie’s room, so my watching meant that Birdie had to sit with Cookie.  When the game went into extra innings I offered to stop watching so that Birdie could get to sleep, but she insisted I should finish the game.  So it was very late for her when she got to bed and even later for me before I got to bed (5:30), although I did doze some while sitting with Cookie. But I got my reward when I came downstairs this morning at 10:00 and saw the bright smile on Cookie’s face.  Another day has begun.

Cookie is comfortable and at peace with her family, her friends and her God.

 

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Feeling Human Again

This morning Cookie awoke early, a little after 3:00 a.m., and felt normal.  She decided not to move or touch anything in case it was just an illusion but by the time she awoke again at 5:00, she was definitely feeling human.

In fact, she was feeling so human that she did a very  human activity, something that most of us do without much thought everyday, she had a bowel movement.  The trouble with that was she is now wearing adult diapers, and we are inexperienced with them.  I did my best to clean her up and get her re-diapered, but when she thought that she had done more I called hospice to come help me.  We will learn…

But I digress.  Cookie is feeling much better today.  She is more alert.  Her blood O2 level is better than it was on Monday and similar to yesterday.  She is taking more initiative in asking for things like a toothpick to clean her teeth.  She is still staying in bed and not interested in moving around the house in the wheel chair.  She also has told Abra and Phil that it might be okay for them to return to Minneapolis since she is “not going to die today.”

Pray for her continued strength and that we will face each day as a gift to be treasured.

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Anniversary Celebration was Lovely

(This post is being written by Dave.  Cookie has been getting weaker by the day and is now unable to post. I maybe should have started posting for her sooner, but she has really enjoyed being able to communicate honestly and openly for as long as possible.)

Thanks to everyone who attended and/or sent cards for our thirty three and a third anniversary celebration.  Our Sunday School class (Life-Sharing at First Mennonite Newton) did a wonderful job of organizing and serving the meal.  We were able to visit with a broad range of friends and relatives.  Cookie says it was great to see and visit with so many people, she smiles at the mention of the celebration, but she also found it exhausting.

Today she has mostly slept.  After a couple of trips to the toilet and the subsequent exertion, she asked for a catheter which the hospice nurse brought by and my sister, Miriam, inserted.  We have also had to keep bumping up the oxygen settings to maintain her blood oxygen levels.  But she is in good spirits, pain free and surrounded by family.

We aren’t sure if her weakness today is a result of being exhausted by yesterday’s activities or if she truly near the end of her life,  in either case the end will come soon.  Pray that she is able to continue in the grace which has been so abundant for the last 15 months of her illness.

 

 

 

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Thursday, had our first really bad night

  •  I had my first panic attack about not getting enough oxygen
  • Pretty scary, did not sleep well at all.
  • Dave came down to -cuddle “I’m not ready yet.”
  • I wasn’t ready to  die yet either.
  • Lay for hours thinking I had to go  pee, so didn’ , suffered all night.
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Sunday, Oct., 16th, 2011

More updates on how Cookie is doing:

  • I seem to be losing strength at an alarming  rate.
  • Today after,  losing strength and collapsing, I was unable to “hold it” until the bathroom.
  • If I lay down in bed, I will fall asleep  and not surface  for hours, so I’m looking for company and a distraction (but not all at once).
  • My feet are swelling –  also at an alarming rate.
  • I’m tending to leaving my mouth open all the time and while not on oxygen all the time – probably should be?
  • I don’t know what my O2 stats are, I suppose I could find could out tomorrow from Hospice. My heart rate seems high. I’m not uncomfortable –  just breathing open-mouthed all the time.
  • Pretty sure I could just sleep my life life away…
  • Marti is ravaging the fleece,  I think  we need to give it back  before it’s ruined totally.
  • It takes two hands to move my legs
  • Enjoyed watching an episode of Dr. Who
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