Anniversary Celebration was Lovely

(This post is being written by Dave.  Cookie has been getting weaker by the day and is now unable to post. I maybe should have started posting for her sooner, but she has really enjoyed being able to communicate honestly and openly for as long as possible.)

Thanks to everyone who attended and/or sent cards for our thirty three and a third anniversary celebration.  Our Sunday School class (Life-Sharing at First Mennonite Newton) did a wonderful job of organizing and serving the meal.  We were able to visit with a broad range of friends and relatives.  Cookie says it was great to see and visit with so many people, she smiles at the mention of the celebration, but she also found it exhausting.

Today she has mostly slept.  After a couple of trips to the toilet and the subsequent exertion, she asked for a catheter which the hospice nurse brought by and my sister, Miriam, inserted.  We have also had to keep bumping up the oxygen settings to maintain her blood oxygen levels.  But she is in good spirits, pain free and surrounded by family.

We aren’t sure if her weakness today is a result of being exhausted by yesterday’s activities or if she truly near the end of her life,  in either case the end will come soon.  Pray that she is able to continue in the grace which has been so abundant for the last 15 months of her illness.

 

 

 

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Thursday, had our first really bad night

  •  I had my first panic attack about not getting enough oxygen
  • Pretty scary, did not sleep well at all.
  • Dave came down to -cuddle “I’m not ready yet.”
  • I wasn’t ready to  die yet either.
  • Lay for hours thinking I had to go  pee, so didn’ , suffered all night.
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Sunday, Oct., 16th, 2011

More updates on how Cookie is doing:

  • I seem to be losing strength at an alarming  rate.
  • Today after,  losing strength and collapsing, I was unable to “hold it” until the bathroom.
  • If I lay down in bed, I will fall asleep  and not surface  for hours, so I’m looking for company and a distraction (but not all at once).
  • My feet are swelling -  also at an alarming rate.
  • I’m tending to leaving my mouth open all the time and while not on oxygen all the time – probably should be?
  • I don’t know what my O2 stats are, I suppose I could find could out tomorrow from Hospice. My heart rate seems high. I’m not uncomfortable -  just breathing open-mouthed all the time.
  • Pretty sure I could just sleep my life life away…
  • Marti is ravaging the fleece,  I think  we need to give it back  before it’s ruined totally.
  • It takes two hands to move my legs
  • Enjoyed watching an episode of Dr. Who
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Driviel Drone & More,Sat,Oct. 15th, 2011

I seem to be getting some flack from people who do not get  a notification email from Charitableliving as they do show up as a “post” and wonder what they’ve missed and why. Dave also preferred the “Cookie Crumbs” from Twitter, as being more succinct and less wandering around with a lot of Drivel. Some may still be called “Drivel” when they really are more Drivel than content, so back to notification emails for you!!! And more pictures… And more Cookie Crumbs.

Back on Chemo:

When I think about it, it’s a little scary; I was actually off of any kind of treatment for two whole months – and did not die! I was sure I would be dead in two months without treatment. This must be why the Dr. is so dead set against giving any proclamations about length of life.  By now, he knows better.

We spent those two months scrambling, trying to get on to three different clinical trials,  failing in every instance. Most require a three- to – four week wash out time, the normal time between any treatment any but that next 4 weeks as we went through the rig-a-marole for another  trial, could be agonizing as we waited for the final verdict each time. The last treatment of chemo was, by now Aug. 1st, 2011, making it seem a bit too long not to panic if nothing happened anytime soon. -The last time that panicky feeling happened, we started on Gemzar – which is why I then didn’t qualify for that trial, possibly our best overall chance of a real cure… But of course – we didn’t know then. It’s always been a balancing act between what can be done sooner and what can take a while to get ducks in a row for a later option. What might be a better option, truer option.

I have never been a patient person, and Dave has never been one to give up. That makes for makes some rather difficult decision making, even between just two of us.  How far are we going to go before we decide “enough is enough!”. How long and hard am I going to “fight” before I decide to simply “let go and let God”?

  • Until I loose bowel and bladder control and have diarrhea instead of constipation?
  • Sleep 90% of the time
  • Can’t track a conversation
  • Can’t make a decision
  • Can’t go outside the house
  • Look terrible/emaciated and like “death warmed over”
  • Have absolutely no strength at all, have to be carried everywhere
  • Lie/sleep with my mouth open all the time

Will add more more later, – is very hard to hang on to a thought! I think I got two sentences written correctly this morning.

Love,

Cookie

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Driviel Drone, Wednesday, Oct. 12 th,

  • Slept well
  • Will see the Dr. this morning, see what he thinks.
  • Will decide if side-effectorth the cost effectiveness extreme tiredness) are worth the benefits – which we don’t yet, as haven’t yet done a blood test.
  • Hospice nurse comes this afternoon comes this afternoon.

No chemo today after all – need blood work first to see if liver/kidneys can handle it.

Love, Cookie

 

 

Will report more as the day goes on, from Dr. and from nurse/

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Driviel Drone, Tuesday, Oct. 11, 2011

  • Got up a bit late – am off to bed a bit late too…
  • Attended my sister-in-law’s-mother’s funeral at 1 p.m. this afternoon
  • Followed that by a milk shake for me and a  sonic cherry lime aide for Dave
  • Followed by a great nap this afternoon.
  • Followed by a great game night with Aisha, Mariam, and Leroy  (I WON) at Qwirkle
  • Have chemo tomorrow – please pray for some slow down here in the cancer.
  • And improvement in the hemorrhoids…need shrinking,
  • BMs ok for the past three days, (like you really wanted to know…).

Peace, Cookie

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Driviel Drone, Monday, Oct. 10, 20111

  • Slow start to the day
  • Hospice home health as part of the  deal, twice a week, we are ready- I think I’m  getting a bed sore where my tail bone meets the bed.
  • Dave bought a Sitz bath from Walgreens.
  • Hemorroids are horrible!
  • Worked on chosing photos
  • finished the (very good) movie, (Eat, Drink, Man, Woman) .
  • Rod & Marsh Elena & Maariam, and my new Home Health Aide all stopped by today.

Pray:

For the home health aide and the hemmoroids! The hemmoroids plus the beginning bed sores are the worst. Got a new cream for that.  Hope it works.


 


 

 

 

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Driviel Drone, Sunday, Oct. 9, 2011

Way to get going!:

  • Birdie’s daughter and son-in-law drove up yesterday to get her and left early this morning. Oh, how I will miss her!
  • Delightful evening with them. Dave made awesome pizza , don’t ask me how I know, I just do…
  • Watched “Chopped”, a show about cooking,  both Bryan and Dave do a lot of cooking.
  • As this may be the only time I meet the guy in this world…I’d say Jane and Bryan will do well for each other.
  • Slept well through the  night with oxygen staying in my nose at least part of it – I didn’t wake Dave up to go to the the Bathroom twice during the night and woke well rested at 7 a.m.
  • Took an ondancetron – just in case – for nausea – and then took all my morning  pills at once!
  • Gave my last minute “wisdom”: choose the life you want to live, don’t live your life on default!”.
  • Dave went off to church to sing on HAT (Hymnal Accompaniment Team) and with our class for special music.
  • Linda stayed with me during early service, Dave came home during SS.
  • I fell soundly asleep  and didn’t wake up until after 12:30 p.m.  Sure am getting good naps in today.
  • Another Ensure and a lime jello for lunch (enough to make the bowels move, which they’ve been doing for the last couple of days on their own), I admit, I  most like the  stuff. by now.
  • Walked about half-a- mile  out of the 2-mile venture.
  • Started watching “Eat, Drink, Man, Woman”, Chinese (Taiwanese) movie about food, love & family, but will stop for Company
  • Gail and Russ stopped by, as did Elena, Loren, Donna, and Aisha.
  • We have had the most glorious rain today  -  on top of yesterday’s full inch, another half!!! We’ve really not had rain since June.
  • Pretty pretty good pain control since then.

Pray:

  • For relief from Hemrrohoids!
  • Hospice cannot provide either a fleece or s Sitz bath Not to get bed sores on pressure points, both things I needed to avoid.
  • My lungs are getting some fluid and I’ve had some minor coughing, that’s why I like to walk and try to breathe deeply.

Love,

Cookie

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Driviel Drone, Friday, Oct. 7th, 2011

What’s up today -  Friday?

Chemo appointment:

  • Woke up early, stayed up, managed meds and meals generally on time and without issues.
  • Good thing, cause when Dave called the oncologist at 8:55 a.m., he found out the appointment was at 9:30, in half an hour!  We managed to arrive only half hour late, even with a bath and  a (normal) BM!
  • We normally try not to start anything before 11 am – knowing  I often don’t get up and going till about 11 a.m.
  • Met nurses Vickie (kinda tearful on her part), could reassure her of our being at peace about walking this path,  very glad to be on path, with all of the support that I have, I guess I’d better die!   :-)

Shopping for burial clothes:

  • After my chemo, and checked in with brother and sister in law. They had moved  her mother into a nursing home when they simply could  no longer do everything necessary to keep her safe, well, and happy. She  had caught pneumonia and could no longer fight back. She died yesterday and today her daughter was shopping for burial clothes.
  • Today, I took my sis to my favorite thrift store (The Value Center on Douglas) to  look for burial clothes for myself.
  • Weird to think about in the first place, huh! But clothes I really love, I probably would like to give away or pass on as special or keep in a foreign clothes collection  I would have been happy to pass on to my daughter for her to pass on to her daughter…

We found something for EVERYONE, including:

  • a springform baking pan- never been used – & a photo box – for Dave
  • a t-shirt and a kid’s book my sis found
  • some “burial options” for me
  • and a heavy-duty cat scratching post for Marti

Tonight we watched “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner” – one of my sister’s favorite movies.

Prayer and Praise:

  • Praise for continued pain management
  • Praise for a wonderful time with my sister for two wonderful weeks.
  • Pray for the pain management to continue.
  • Ascites has started developing in my gut, this is the fluid put off by leaky blood vessels and can become quite uncomfortable and needs to be tapped every so often.
  • Please pray for my hemorrhoids to go away.
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Driviel Drone, Oct. 6, 2011

Gettin’ Go’in the mornin’:

  • Got up relatively on-time today.
  • Got through the meds and meals without any troubles.
  • Am up, dressed and alert at the table, with my computer and everybody else on theirs.
  • Twitches are definitely getting stronger and more frequent, making it quite difficult  to type and drink without numerous spills and typos.
  • A sippi cup will be the next step.  Let’s see, Depends for the end and a sippi cup for the beginning… What more do I need?

Keep’in go’in’:

  • Eating my brother’s leftover homemade ice cream…
  • Spilling about half a bottle of my breakfast- and- lunch, (sticky all over me too…Ensure, of course)
  • Jerry came by
  • Got a sippi cup for water, slurpy cup for Ensure and Jerry came by; that’s three good things that have happened today.
  • I greeted him by dropping my glass of ice water – and breaking it  (that’s three bad things)…
  • I have probably have ascites developing in my gut – I had really hoped NOT to have Ascites. Arghhh, makes  my Tibetan Tunic tight!
  • Heading out for Taste of Newton downtown, tonight.

Go’in’ to bed

  • Taste of Newton was good tonight
  • I could eat ice cream.
  • From Steve Job (NPR special):

Pray:

  • Appointment tomorrow morning with oncologist…
  • For decisions and uncertainties

Love, Cookie

 

 

 

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